Angry No More
Sometimes negative words from a friend can hurt. They can cut through the heart like a knife. Words that weren’t intended to be taking out of context sometimes do and when this happens we seek revenge and try to hurt that person also..You know, the tongue is mightier than the sword. Kind words can build up a person, make there day and raise esteem. Harsh words can create wrath in an instant.
A friend once said something to me that I took the wrong way. It was a remark just out of conversation that left me feeling inadequate and insignificant; it destroyed my self esteem. I felt the need to retaliate against him and get revenge by saying something to him that I hoped would make him feel two feet tall.
Looking back, it was well over a year before I talked to my friend again. I avoided him. Holding this grudge this long, every day was a victory for me because of the pain he caused me by his remark— I would not give in. Was I over reacted, I guess, I don’t believe in letting anyone putting me down that way.
Yesterday, he sent me a text, and the “grudge” was over in an instant. I was relieved and the world seemed a little lighter.
Holding a grudge was never easy for me. I never thought I could. I realized how overwhelmingly guilty I felt when I am missing the little tidbits of humor we used to shared.
I wanna let him know now that I have forgiven him. And I am feeling sorry as I remember the guilt I felt as I tried to expire him from my life….
i had that before..on and off friendship..sumore so damn close.he always say things that make me feel as if im some kinda shit.thinking back..maybe he’s not worth my time being friends with him anymore.there goes our friendship of 11 yrs..
Comment by su — January 4, 2008 @ 7:03 am
Communication and understanding are the basic of friendship.
I’m glad you and your friend can end up in the ‘happy’ ending.
I myself also is one who tend to talk without thinking, and most of the time, it’s something that I didnt mean to. So I hope we can clear things out if ever, I say anything wrong in the future.
Comment by Seizhin — January 5, 2008 @ 3:53 pm